How Do You Know If You’re on a Date? – The Cut

How Do You Know If You’re on a Date? – The Cut

6/16/2014 | The Cut

Cindi Leive and the Glamour staff have set out to reignite the fire in America’s loins by declaring Saturday, June 28, National Date Night, and facilitating the whole event through restaurant and retail deals. According to a survey in Glamour‘s upcoming July issue, 73 percent of women report having no idea if they are even on a date or not, because we’re all so ruined by booty calls, text-based love affairs, and the long-term fantasy relationships we have with people’s Tinder profiles before even speaking to them.

How can you tell if you’re on a date? If we define “date night” by the companies involved in the promotion — e.g., Piperlime, Whole Foods, and Drybar — then a date is when one participant gets a blowout and a new outfit, and two people share either a moderately priced meal at a national chain or overpriced food in the Whole Foods café.

This already seems too complicated. A better gauge: Are you boning? If so, it may be date night.

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Why Glamour’s EIC Wants You to Go on a Date

6/16/2014 | Racked

Glamour EIC Cindi Leive and Lena Dunham.

As Glamour EIC Cindi Leive explains, women these days have a big problem on their hands. We’re talking about the end of dating, the slow decline of an American institution once held so dear by both men and women. To try to regain some footing, Leive and the Glamour team have come up with Glamour Date Night, a nationwide initiative that’s going down Saturday, June 28.

To encourage women (and men) to hop back in the dating saddle, Glamour‘s editors have lined up deals with retailers and restaurants, and have dedicated a large portion of the magazine’s July issue to the cause. After the jump, Leive explains why she thinks dating has tanked, and why women shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what they want.

Where did the idea for Glamour Date Night come from?
“It came from a conversation our editors were having about all of the complaints that they hear from our readers—mostly our single readers—about how dating appears to be dying an untimely death. Here’s this thing that’s existed for a hundred years, a century-old American tradition, yet every young woman we talked to was complaining that it’s been completely replaced by the 11pm texts, the online hook-up, and to a lesser extent by group dating. We did a survey of 2,500 women and my favorite statistic from it was that 73% of women have actually wondered ‘Is this a date?’ about their most recent date. When you don’t even know if the date you are on is an actual date, then something’s wrong.”

Why did you pick June 28?
We felt like it needed to be a weekend night, obviously, even though there is a lot to be said for the weekday evening date. In this case, for a lot of people, Saturday night is still the date night. Summer is a good time; you don’t want to be doing it on a holiday weekend. It seems like the right moment.

We hatched the idea at a Glamour full-staff offsite last summer. So it’s been a while in the making. We believe [Glamour date night] will be annual.”

Glamour editor Christina Perez and her fiance.

How do you plan to measure the success of Glamour Date Night?
“Well, we’ll see what we hear from readers. We are offering deals on more than 50 date-related things that they can get their hands on across the country. So obviously we’ll be able to measure the number of women who actually took advantage of these deals, but more than that, what we want to hear from our readers is, now that you and the guy in your life were forced to go out on an honest-to-god actual date, will this stick? Every relationship counselor worth their salt will tell you to sit down with somebody for more than three-and-a-half seconds of speed dating to get to know whether they’re right for you. You’re able to make better choices about your romantic life. You’re actually having a conversation that takes place over dinner, and not over text at 12:37am.”

Did you line up partners for this initiative?
“We’re working with restaurants in every major market, so no matter where you live as a Glamour reader, there’s something you can take advantage of. Some of the things that I think readers will be most excited about are Whole Foods, which is doing a whole picnic spread that you can get a discount on, you can get discounts on date-night clothing from Piperlime, you can get discounts at Drybar if you’re working on your blowout. I think women will be very excited.”

Does Glamour Magazine stand to earn money from this editorial initiative?
“No.”

Glamour cites a recent decline in dating. What killed dating, do you think? Was it the smartphone?
“I think dating has changed generation to generation, but to answer your question about why it’s taken this steep nose dive, I think don’t think it’s as simple as the smart phone killed dating. I think it’s a combination of technology, which makes it much easier to connect with people (that’s a good thing) but also much easier to connect with people in a totally superficial way (that’s a bad thing). I think it leads to people overdating, where you’re actually scheduling 12 30-minute meetings over the course of a week. I know both men and women who do this when they start online dating. I don’t think those qualify as real dates if you’re whizzing through them with one eye on the clock. People lead very over-scheduled lives now, in general.

We [also] have a whole generation of women who have grown up not dating. If you’re 23 or 24, it’s just not what was ever done when you were in high school or college, so you have no frame of reference. But what we heard from women of every age is that they actually want to do it. One of our editors was saying that for her, the best date she’d ever been on was with an ex-boyfriend of hers simply because he had picked a night, made a reservation at a restaurant, and called her on the actual phone—not just texting her—to tell her he’d made a plan. All these things that seem so simple and any guy worth the price of admission should be doing that, but those are the kind of things that are generally not done.”

The last big conversation in this country around dating was spurred by The Rules. How does Glamour Date Night differ?
“I think that if this is something that women want, that they should push for it. We’re advocating on their behalf. PS, the message to women isn’t, sit around and wait for him to ask you. You can ask him, too, if you think the return of dating is a good thing. This is not a Rules thing. And how you act on your date and what you do on your date is totally your business. We just want you to get out there and look amazing.”

http://racked.com/archives/2014/06/16/glamour-date-night.php

Talking Politics With This Summer’s Crop of Washington Interns

6/15/2014 | New York Magazine

College students swarm the gridlocked capital for the summer, armed with hope for bipartisanship, personal talking points, and brand-new suits. Here, we talk to ten of them.

1. Wanda Zhan
Office of Democratic Representative Mike Honda

Fremont, California
“I was always the most informed on government in my group of friends, so everyone knew to come to me with questions on that. We’re from Silicon Valley, a pretty educated part of the country, so if they don’t know what’s going on, I can only imagine the rest of the country.”

2. Akinyi Ochieng
Justice Department Office of International Affairs
Washington, D.C.
“I went to Sidwell Friends School. My dad works at the World Bank, and my mom works for the FDA. I was always expected to engage in discussions with adults about politics.”

3. Aaron Mukerjee
Democratic Governors Association
Saline, Michigan
“I’m actually staying with two Republicans, and I’m a Democrat. We talk about issues we agree on—and we agree on 90 percent of things.”

4. Jon Buchleiter
American Enterprise Institute

Fort Collins, Colorado
“I love the monuments. I’ll just come down to Washington or Jefferson and read while the sun goes down over the Tidal Basin. I haven’t really
picked up on the nightlife too much.”

5. Joanne Dynak
Department of Health and Human Services

Chicago
“I had to make sure all my suits still fit. I had to get a new blazer or two. I do a lot of politics-related things in college, so I felt relatively well prepared.”

6. Emily Wilson
Office of Republican Senator Jerry Moran

Overland Park, Kansas
“Some [of the adults in my office] are intimidating. But most of them started as Hill interns at one point too.”

7. Briana Burroughs
Republican Majority for Choice*
Virginia Beach
“I didn’t learn much from sex ed. I learned how much pregnancy costs, and abstinence. Empowering people to know about the risks of sexual activity, and the solutions, is a huge part of fiscal responsibility.”

8. Max McGee
The Washington Institute for Near East Policy

Cedar Rapids, Iowa
“I work long hours. I also work a second job at District Commons as a host. But I love walking through neighborhoods like Logan Circle and U Street in the afternoon, in the summer specifically. When everyone’s getting off work, there’s a different vibe.”

9. MacLane Taggart
United States Hispanic Chamber of Commerce

East Millcreek, Utah
“I’m gonna be writing a policy paper on what the government should do with Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac. I’m still trying to figure it out. It’s a complicated issue.”

10. Derek Soled
Senate HELP Committee Health Policy Office

Randolph, New Jersey
“Working on the Affordable Care Act is really enjoyable. It sort of puts all of us in the heat. Yes, it is controversial, but it is the law at this point, and it is being implemented full force. This is what we have to work with; let’s make it better. It’s not a question at this point, especially not to the interns.”

*This article appears in the June 16, 2014 issue of New York Magazine.

This article has been corrected to show that Briana Burroughs works for Republican Majority for Choice, not Republicans for Choice.

 

http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2014/06/washington-dc-interns-talk-politics.html

George Takei Is Still Guiding the Ship

6/13/2014 | The New York Times

The actor George Takei, far left, with his husband, Brad Takei, in their Manhattan apartment.

George Takei sat in a V.I.P. room at the Waldorf-Astoria as a young makeup artist named Eryk Datura dabbed foundation on his brow.

“Are you a native of this city?” the 77-year-old actor asked him, in the booming basso profundo that helped make him famous, beginning with his role as the galactic helmsman Hikaru Sulu on “Star Trek.”

“I’m from Nashville,” Mr. Datura said.

Mr. Takei perked up. “Do you know the state senator from eastern Tennessee named Stacey Campfield?” he asked. “He tried to get a law passed forbidding teachers from using the word ‘gay’ in schools.”

He cracked a satisfied grin and continued: “On YouTube I said, ‘Well, if it’s going to be illegal to use the word “gay,” then you can simply substitute it with the word “Takei,” which rhymes with “gay.” And you can march in a Takei Pride Parade.’ ”

That brand of winking online activism is why Mr. Takei was honored last month by Glaad, the gay rights advocacy group. Since coming out as gay in 2005 at the age of 68, Mr. Takei has used his bawdy social-media persona to build a following far beyond Trekkies. To his seven million Facebook fans and million or so Twitter followers, he supplies an endless stream of viral diversions (like a photo of a road sign saying “Elevated Man Holes”), often accompanied by his pseudoscandalized catchphrase, “Oh myyy.”

George Takei receiving an award from Glaad in New York.

Like Betty White, Mr. Takei has used naughty-oldster humor to fuel a late-career surge. But his ribaldry is often in the service of social causes, whether gay rights or Japanese-American visibility. In 2007, after the former basketball player Tim Hardaway said, “I hate gay people,” Mr. Takei responded with a mock public service announcement on “Jimmy Kimmel Live,” telling Mr. Hardaway, “Let it be known: One day, when you least expect it, I will have sex with you.”

He concluded, with a cackle, “I love sweaty basketball players.”

This month, Mr. Takei is to appear in gay pride parades in Seattle and Columbus, Ohio.

“The moment he came out, it was all engines go,” said Wilson Cruz, an actor who appeared on “My So-Called Life” and is a Glaad national spokesman. “He was on the ground, making his opinion known.”

His rebooted fame is likely to grow. A documentary about his life, “To Be Takei” by Jennifer M. Kroot, showed at the Sundance Film Festival in January and is to open in theaters in August. And he is looking for a Broadway home for “Allegiance,” a musical inspired by his childhood experiences in Japanese-American internment camps during World War II.

At the Glaad awards, he was accompanied by his husband, Brad Takei (né Altman), a tightly wound 60-year-old who serves as Mr. Takei’s manager. A self-described “control freak,” Brad is a bustling presence in “To Be Takei,” playfully bickering with his husband and acting as a Klingon when fans get aggressive.

As they walked into the hotel ballroom, he eyed Mr. Takei’s cocktail glass and warned, “George, you have to give an acceptance speech.”

“This is juice!” his husband protested.

The couple, wearing matching tuxedos, took their seats. Moments later, Boy George wandered over in a bright red fedora. He slung his arm around Mr. Takei and posed for a photo, saying, “It should be ‘Live long and saunter.’ ”

When it came time to receive the group’s Vito Russo Award for promoting gay equality (past winners include Ricky Martin and Anderson Cooper), Mr. Takei gave a speech mixing gravitas and gags. He ended with a call for equality “for all people, and especially young straight couples, because they are going to be making the gay babies of tomorrow.”

Given Mr. Takei’s cheeky advocacy, it is hard to believe that he came out publicly just nine years ago. For that, his admirers can thank Arnold Schwarzenegger, who, when he was governor of California, vetoed a marriage-equality bill. Watching the news on TV at home, Mr. Takei felt his blood boil.

A scene from the documentary “To Be Takei.”

“We agreed that I had to speak out, which meant my voice had to be authentic,” he said in an interview with his husband in their Midtown Manhattan apartment. (They also have a home in Los Angeles: “We are bi … coastal!”)

Brad added, “The fiction that I was only George’s business manager, that was getting kind of stale for us.”

The couple met in 1984, in the gay running club Los Angeles Frontrunners. Brad, who was working as a journalist for a trade publishing company, caught George’s eye during a jog around the Silver Lake Reservoir.

“For you, it was lust at first sight,” Brad recalled.

Mr. Takei clutched his hand: “You were my first hunk.”

By 2005, their friends knew they were a couple, but the decision to go public had unexpected perks. Mr. Takei got a call from Howard Stern’s SiriusXM radio show asking him to be a regular announcer. It was Mr. Stern who popularized Mr. Takei as a gay pundit and comic gold mine. On one show, he put Mr. Takei on the phone with Mr. Schwarzenegger to debate same-sex marriage, only to reveal afterward that it was not the governor, but an impersonator.

From there, Mr. Takei’s comeback snowballed. He played himself on sitcoms like “Will & Grace” and “The Big Bang Theory,” and he and Brad became the first gay couple on “The Newlywed Game.” That was soon after their wedding in 2008 at the Japanese American National Museum in Los Angeles; Mr. Takei is a trustee. His “Star Trek” co-stars Walter Koenig and Nichelle Nichols served as best man and best lady.

Mr. Takei’s gay rights advocacy came after years of outspokenness on other fronts. By the time he revealed his sexuality, he had already dabbled in politics. He narrowly lost a race for Los Angeles City Council in 1973, and later served on the board of the Southern California Rapid Transit District. In 1981, he testified in a Congressional hearing, calling for redress for Japanese-Americans who had been in the internment camps.

Mr. Takei had made his way in Hollywood at a time when Asian actors were mostly relegated to playing servants or ninjas. His earliest film work was dubbing English dialogue for the Japanese monster movies “Godzilla Raids Again” and “Rodan.” Later on, he appeared in a pair of Jerry Lewis comedies, playing characters he knew were racial caricatures.

“Those were stereotypes, and I terribly regret them,” he says now, adding that his agent at the time (also of Japanese descent) urged him to take the parts.

But “Star Trek,” which had its premiere in 1966, offered something different: a chance to work with a multiethnic ensemble on a show that obliquely tackled hot-button issues like the Vietnam War and civil rights.

Mr. Takei in the documentary “To Be Takei.”

Sulu, Mr. Takei said, “was a groundbreaking character. I mean, there he was as part of the leadership team of the Enterprise, smart as a whip. In fact, he was the best helmsman in Starfleet, and he was an Asian driver!”

Throughout the series, Mr. Takei was careful not to indulge stereotypes. When a script called for Sulu to wield a samurai sword, he suggested a fencing foil instead.

But another part of his identity remained hidden. At night, he went to gay bars around Los Angeles, always terrified of a police raid.

“I immediately looked around at the exits where I could slip out and flee,” he said. “I couldn’t afford to be fingerprinted and photographed.”

Most of his “Star Trek” co-stars knew he was gay, but they were savvy enough not to say anything. He recalled Mr. Koenig nudging him on the set one day when a “drop-dead gorgeous” male extra in a skintight Starfleet suit was standing nearby.

“They knew,” Mr. Takei said. “Except for one. It went right over his head.”

The original “Star Trek” series was canceled in 1969, the same year as the Stonewall riots. Mr. Takei was aware that he was missing out on a movement, but as a newly unemployed actor, he couldn’t take the risk. When he went to parties where there were reporters, he brought “girlfriends.”

Nowadays, Mr. Takei’s life is less compartmentalized. Far from separating his ethnic history from his sexuality, or his humanitarian concerns from cat-video humor, he cross-pollinates them.

Three days after the Glaad awards, he and Brad took the train to Washington for another gala. It was an awards dinner for the Asian Pacific American Institute for Congressional Studies, and Mr. Takei was to give the keynote address.

This was far more sedate than the Glaad affair, which had culminated with Kylie Minogue singing on a table. Lisa Ling introduced Mr. Takei, who gave a joke-free speech about his internment experience.

By now, he is used to telling the story. One morning when he was 5, two men with bayonet-tipped rifles banged on his family’s front door in Los Angeles. The Takeis were taken to a racetrack and spent several months living in the stables.

Mr. Takei as Hikaru Sulu on “Star Trek.”

“I remember thinking, ‘We get to sleep where the horses sleep,’ ” he said later.

From there, they were taken by train to a “relocation center” in the swamps of Arkansas. He ate in a noisy mess hall and bathed with his father in a communal shower. After a year, his parents were given a questionnaire asking if they forswore their loyalty to the Japanese emperor. It was a trick question, akin to “When did you stop beating your wife?” His father answered no, proclaiming: “They took our business, they took our home, they took our freedom. The one thing I’m not going to give them is my dignity.”

For that, the Takeis were labeled “disloyals” and moved to a high-security camp in Northern California.

“We started every school day with the Pledge of Allegiance,” Mr. Takei recalled. “I can see the barbed-wire fence and the sentry tower right outside my schoolhouse window as I recited the words ‘with liberty and justice for all,’ each word stinging with irony. But I was just a kid who mouthed those words.”

It was not until they were freed that he realized anything was wrong. Back in Los Angeles, the Takei family moved to Skid Row, and his father, who had gone to business college, took a job washing dishes. In school, one of George’s teachers called him “Jap Boy” (George was born in Los Angeles) and refused to call on him in class. He learned to bury his feelings of ostracism, making it easier to hide his sexuality once he realized he was “more interested in Bobby than in Jane.”

As a teenager in the ’50s, he began looking back on internment and grew angry, directing his rage at his father over the dinner table. He had been attending civil rights rallies, and told his father that he would have protested rather than go to the camps.

“My father said: ‘If I were alone, maybe I would have done that. But I had you, your brother, your sister and your mother to worry about,’ ” he recalled.

Decades later, George and Brad Takei were attending an Off Broadway show and sat behind a young musical-theater team, Jay Kuo and Lorenzo Thione. The resulting collaboration, “Allegiance,” is in part Mr. Takei’s way of making peace with his father, Takekuma, who died in 1979.

The musical is also why Mr. Takei took up social media. He registered his Facebook account as a promotional tool, but it quickly became a comedic outlet.

“I discovered that funny animal pictures — memes — would get a lot of likes and shares,” he said. (A small staff, called Team Takei, helps run his online presence.)

Now, his younger fans are as likely to know him from Facebook as from the Enterprise. At the dinner in Washington, Mr. Takei gamely endured a long line of photo seekers, some of whom splayed their fingers in the Vulcan salute. Brad looked on, uncertain when to enter the frame.

Mark L. Keam, a member of the Virginia House of Delegates, leaned in for a photograph, then asked Mr. Takei if he would come to Virginia to help campaign against its same-sex marriage ban.

“I would be happy to,” he said tentatively, unsure of his schedule.

Between courses, Mr. Keam checked his Facebook page. His selfie with George Takei already had 44 likes.

 

 

 

 

17 Bookstores That Will Literally Change Your Life

— And all you have to do is visit them!

6/11/2014 | BuzzFeed

1. City Lights Bookstore in San Francisco

Book appeal: City Lights was founded by poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti, so it makes sense that its entire second floor is a dedicated poetry space. But throughout the store there are chairs strategically placed so customers can not only enjoy the natural light, but take their time in choosing a title to bring home.

2. Word on the Water in London

Book appeal: This bookstore is on a barge, for starters. You can hop aboard to browse through its selection (and mingle with the owner’s cats), or stay on the mainland to see their poetry readings and live music, which happen on the roof of the barge.

3. Boekhandel Dominicanen in Maastricht, Netherlands

Book appeal: Browsing books in a 700-year-old church is an experience you’ll only have at Boekhandel Dominicanen. There’s a mix of Gothic architecture and modern furniture to enjoy, along with all of the titles, of course.

4. The Livraria Cultura in São Paulo, Brazil

Book appeal: Not only is this the largest bookstore in Brazil, but it’s also a borderline playground for kids. There are massive dragon statues to play on, areas to lounge, and four stories of pure book-filled aisles to wander through.

5. Libreria Acqua Alta in Venice, Italy

Book appeal: This bookstore is easily one of the most memorable and quirky places in Venice. The shop itself is small, and filled with books that fall out of gondolas, bathtubs, and small boats. You can dip your feet in the canal as you read, or climb a set of steps entirely made of old books.

6. Librería El Ateneo in Buenos Aires

Book appeal: This former theater turned bookstore is filled with all sorts of stunning architectural details, like Italian ceiling frescoes, rich red curtains, and ornate sculptures. Plus, there’s live piano music playing in the background while you browse each section.

7. Cook & Book in Brussels

Book appeal: Cook & Book is part bookstore, part café, and totally worth the visit. The shop is divided into nine rooms, and each room contains a different section (think music, fiction, children’s, travel, graphic novels, etc.). But best of all is that each section has its own special design and looks totally unique from the other rooms. There’s even an English room that looks a bit like a pub.

8. Brattle Book Shop in Boston

Book appeal: Founded in 1825, the Brattle Book Shop is one of the largest antiquarian book shops in the country. There are unique outdoor bookstalls, as well as three levels of titles to browse through.

9. Livraria Lello in Porto, Portugal

Book appeal: If you blink you’d miss the unassuming exterior of Livraria Lello. But inside, it’s filled with rich dark wood and a sweeping staircase that leads to a second floor of stained glass and floor to ceiling bookshelves. This is one of Portugal’s oldest bookstores and completely worth the visit.

10. Librairie Ptyx in Brussels

Book appeal: Even before you walk through the doors, it’s not hard to see that the Librairie Ptyx is a monument to all things art. Inside, titles are carefully curated, and the homages to famous writers covers the walls.

11. The Last Bookstore in Downtown Los Angeles

Book appeal: Aside from the vaulted ceilings and enormous pillars that fill this large space, stepping inside The Last Bookstore will make you feel like you’ve entered another world. There’s a mix of old and used books, and even an upstairs section where everything is just $1.

12. Cafebrería El Péndulo in Mexico City

Book appeal: Anywhere where they allow you to eat, drink mojitos, and read is pretty fantastic, in my opinion. Plus Cafebrería El Péndulo also offers outdoor seating, and enough natural light and vegetation to make you feel like you’re not in a bookstore at all.

13. Atlantis Books in Santorini, Greece

Book appeal: Stepping into Atlantis Books is a bit like going into a cave, but one filled with tons of character! There are notes and messages written all over the walls, and they host food festivals, film festivals, and book signings regularly.

14. Powell’s Books in Portland, Oregon

Book appeal: Powell’s is ENORMOUS. That’s because it was formerly a car dealership that has become a Portland landmark. If you ever feel like indie bookstores are flailing, walk through the rows of books while sipping coffee from their cafe and just remember that being a book lover is alive and well in Portland.

15. Librairie Avant-Garde in Nanjing, China

Book appeal: Can you spot the yellow stripe down the center of the book rows? That’s because Librairie Avant-Garde is a former garage converted into a bookstore. Pretty neat, but you’ll have to find parking elsewhere!

16. Dickson Street Bookshop in Fayetteville, Arkansas

Book appeal: Specializing in out of print and rare books, you’ll step off the main Fayetteville drag into this cozy shop filled with rows and rows of books old and new. The rare and more leather-bound options are right up front and absolutely stunning, while if you head into the back you can find anything from Southern cookbooks to music biographies.

17. Books Actually in Tiong Bahru, Singapore

Book appeal: This shop is a mix of quirky and modern, like the ultimate Etsy store filled with indie titles, local authors, and plenty of knickknacks to bring home. It’s small, but intimate, and readings are often hosted here.

 

http://www.buzzfeed.com/erinlarosa/bookstores-that-will-literally-change-your-life

‘Top of the Lake’ Wins Big at Monte-Carlo TV Festival

6/12/2014 | THR

Matt LeBlanc’s “Episodes” won the best comedy prize, while “Modern Family” star Julie Bowen took home best actress in a comedy.

MONACO — Top of the Lake came out on top at the Monte-Carlo International Festival of Television, sweeping the mini-series category with three wins, including best mini-series, and prizes for stars Elisabeth Moss and Peter Mullan for best actress and best actor.

In the TV film category, the best film award went to Germany’s Take Good Care of Him, and star Julia Koschitz was also awarded best actress for her performance. The best actor prize went to Klaus Maria Brandauer for Austria’s film Blank.

Julie Bowen took home the best actress prize in the comedy category for Emmy favorite Modern Family. Norway’s Lillyhammer, about a mobster relocated to a small village, took the award for international comedy series, and star Steven van Zandt won the best actor prize.

The European comedy prize went to Episodes, the Matt LeBlanc-starrer produced by the U.K.’s Hatrick Productions, which airs on Showtime in the U.S.

In the news category, CNN was awarded for its around-the-clock coverage of the Ukraine crisis, while the U.K.’s Sky News was recognized in the TV news program category for its Central African Republic: Victims of Rape coverage.

Al Jazeera English won in the best news documentary category for its Identity and Exile film, and Norway’s Moment Films was recognized for best current affairs documentary for Twin Sisters.

The awards were presided over by Prince Albert, who opened the festival Saturday with a lifetime achievement honor for prolific producer Jerry Bruckheimer.

 

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/top-lake-wins-big-at-711317

Laverne Cox Talks Performing In Nightclubs, ‘Orange Is The New Black’ And More

Laverne Cox has wanted to perform for as long as she can remember.

“Before I knew I was trans, I knew I was a performer,” said the actress, now winning raves for her role in “Orange Is the New Black,” the Netflix critical smash currently in its second season. She explained that while growing up in Alabama she would make speeches — winning a countywide competition in the 8th grade — performed in talent shows, and even choreographed dance routines. But when Cox came to realize she’s transgender, she also realized her route to an acting career would follow a specific path, working in nightclubs, even up until a year ago.

“The gender stuff really started to come up strong for me,”she said, in an interview with me on SiriusXM Progress. “I thought, okay, I can perform in nightclubs. That was never really my milieu, never really something that took off for me. I did work at a place called Lucky Cheng’s [in Manhattan] till about a year ago. I hated it. I never talked about it. I didn’t want anyone to know I worked there. It’s a drag restaurant. I’m not a drag queen. But a lot of trans women who perform find work within the context of drag because we love performing. And there’s not spaces for us elsewhere to perform. Historically, trans women and drag queens co-mingled a lot. And they still do in many spaces. And I love my drag sisters. So, that’s part of my history that is important for me to own. The moments when I was onstage and I was making people laugh and I had everyone’s attention —I loved that. I wanted to act. And I wanted to do more serious work. And I think I grew as a performer working there.”

Laverne Cox Discusses Working As A Performer In Nightclubs In The Past by SiriusXM News & Issues

Cox is undoubtedly that rare person in the acting profession who rode the wave of success while simultaneously being outspoken as an activist as well. For several years she’s been passionate as a transgender activist and blogger, pointing to the violence and societal indifference trans people experience. All the while, she pursued an acting career that took her from appearances in” Law and Order” and “Law and Order: Special Victims Unit,” to her own VH1 makeover series “TRANSform Me,” to “Orange is the New Black,” in which she plays Sophia Burset, a transgender inmate at a women’s correctional facility. Cox is also producing a documentary, “Free CeCe,” about CeCe McDonald, a transgender woman who spent 19 months in a men’s prison, convicted of manslaughter after she defended herself during an anti-trans attack. And last week Cox graced the cover of Time magazine, speaking as an advocate on behalf of transgender rights. She said she chooses the issues carefully about which she speaks out.

Laverne Cox Talks About Her Success And Orange Is the New Black by SiriusXM News & Issues

“I do make choices because I’m an actor first,” she said. “I make choices to speak in certain ways about certain issues. It means that I’m more measured and much more deliberate — that I make sure that I speak out about things that I’m really passionate about. That I’m going to embrace an issue, that it means a lot to me. I’ve had a lot to say about a lot of things. I don’t stop being who I am because I’m an actor. I have thoughts and opinions. And I do believe that trans people need to have spaces where we are treated in just ways. That our lives are in danger because of who we are. That we shouldn’t be fired from our jobs because of who we are, denied health care, bullied in schools because of who we are. And I think we need to figure out ways to talk about that.”

Laverne Cox Discusses Speaking Out On Transgender Issues by SiriusXM News & Issues

Cox’s advocacy for transgender people obviously gains a bigger platform as she becomes more successful. And while magazine covers were certainly something she dreamed about, her main goal and passion, she said, has been to act.

“I dreamed about it,” she says of this kind of attention in a series. “And I manifested it but I didn’t know that ‘Orange’ would be the vehicle. When ‘TRANSform Me’ happened, I was starring in that show and I was hosting it and I was co-producing it. And I honestly thought, I’m going to be a huge star, which I feel kind of embarrassed about saying now in public. And then it was huge flop. No one really tuned in. A second season wasn’t ordered. So I had to have a ‘come to Jesus’ moment and I reevaluated a lot of things in my life. I remember saying to my agent, ‘I want to act. No more reality. I don’t want to be a celebrity. I just want to act.’ And I found a new acting coach and I recommitted to that process and it really just became about the work. So I was hoping I would just work. I’ve dreamed about being on the cover of magazines, but my goal was to be a working actor.”

Laverne Cox On Her Role As ‘Sophia’ In Orange Is the New Black by SiriusXM News & Issues

 

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George Takei: LGBTIs need to be a bit angry to come out and change things

‘My blood was boiling but I was still silent,’ the 77-year-old actor and activist recalls what propelled him to become a vocal proponent of gay rights in 2005
6/7/2014 | Gay Star News

LGBT people in Japan need to fight for their own rights and they need to be a bit angry, George Takei said during his visit to Japan this week.

The California-born actor, who is of Japanese ancestry, recounted his own experiences as having felt both courage and anger when he publicly came out as gay and joined the equal rights movement for sexual minorities in the US.

Best known for his role as Lieutenant Hikaru Sulu in the television series ‘Star Trek,’ the 77-year-old is also a prominent gay and civil rights activist.

On a speaking tour to Japan and Korea organized by the US Department of State this week, Takei said he has noticed a growing LGBT movement in Japan and that LGBT people in Japan need to be a bit angry to fight for their own rights and make their society more equal, the Associated Press reported.

Takei was the guest of honor at a reception hosted by US Ambassador Caroline Kennedy and was attended by about 160 people, including Japan’s first lady, Akie Abe, who wore a rainbow LGBT pride pin. Abe became the first Japanese first lady this year to participate in a LGBT march.

He said that he was silent for decades due to fear of hurting his acting career which began in Hollywood in the late 1950s, at a time when Asians were rarely cast in American television shows and movies.

At the reception, Takei compared future society with a miniature Starship Enterprise given to him by Kennedy. He said that it is the perfect description to the occasion they were celebrating, ‘That is our Utopian future. This Enterprise is a metaphor of Starship Earth with all of its diversity – not only diversity of race and culture and history but also the unseen diversity of orientation, all coming together working in concert for a better future. And that is what we are doing here tonight.’

In an interview with The Korea Times this week, Takei shared that he has been politically active, having marched with Martin Luther King Jr during the civil rights movement in the 1960s and had also protested against the Vietnam War.

The actor however remained tight-lipped about his sexuality although he was out to his closest friends.

‘The irony is, at the same time I have been an activist in the political arena… I was silent on the issue that was closest to me,’ Takei told the Times.

It was only when then-California Gov Arnold Schwarzenegger rejected a bill legalizing same-sex marriage in 2005 that propelled Takei to speak up.

‘My blood was boiling but I was still silent,’ Takei said.

‘That night, [my husband] Brad and I were watching the late evening news and we saw young people pouring out on to Santa Monica Boulevard venting their anger and rage… I felt I needed to participate in that. To do that, my voice had to be authentic. So I spoke to the press for the first time and I blasted Schwarzenegger’s veto.’

Takei and his husband Brad Altman, who accompanied him on the trip, were among California’s first gay couples to obtain a marriage license when California legalized same-sex marriage in 2008.

 

George Takei: LGBTIs need to be a bit angry to come out and change things

The Millennial-Panic M&A Boom Is Upon Us

6/11/2014 | New York Magazine

On Monday, the same day that Time Warner officially spun off its moribund publishing division, we learned that the 92-year-old media conglomerate is in talks to buy a huge stake in Vice Media, valuing the upstart media brand at roughly $2.2 billion. The symbolism of the Vice news coming on the same day as the Time Inc. spinoff was hammer-over-the-head obvious — a fabled media company ditching its old, dusty news magazines for the youthful appeal of an amorphous, web-savvy omnimedia platform whose tattooed founder once called the Time Warner–owned CNN a “fucking disaster.”

Time Warner’s Vice investment might seem like a classic media-consolidation play. But to me, it looks more like something out of the tech start-up world.

The way media commentators are talking about the Vice deal reminds me of how tech commentators talked about Facebook’s purchase of Oculus and WhatsApp, Google’s purchase of Twitch, and Apple’s purchase of Beats. All of these deals fit a similar narrative: An aging mega-company realizes it’s losing its grip on the next generation and, sensing it can’t solve the problem on its own, decides to go shopping for start-ups that are doing a better job of appealing to young consumers. It’s fear of mortality, disguised as M&A strategy.

(In his Q&A with BuzzFeed founder Jonah Peretti, Felix Salmon describes this phenomenon as it relates to the digital media industry: “Vice and BuzzFeed and Vox — it seems to me that you’re monetizing the paranoia of brands and of marketers who are like, ‘Oh shit, young people don’t watch TV they are on their phones all the time they are on the web the whole time — we don’t know how to reach them.'”)

The old-school reason for conducting M&A deals is that one company thinks it can achieve financial synergies by acquiring or merging with a similar company. (In this spring’s Big Banana merger, for example, Chiquita thought that merging with Fyffes, another top banana company, would make the combined entity more competitive than either company would be on its own.) Companies also acquire other companies strategically (Company A views Company B as a short-term threat, and buys it to eliminate the possibility of being beaten), or for more boring reasons like cross-border tax arbitrage.

But this latest round of tech acquisitions isn’t predicated on any of these strategies. Facebook bought Oculus for $2 billion with no clear plan for integrating the virtual-reality start-up into its existing social network. Apple’s Beats deal and Google’s reportedly in-the-works Twitch acquisition have a similar aimlessness to them. In all of these cases, what the acquiring company is actually buying isn’t a product, a threat, or a team. It’s access to a demographic, and an insurance policy on the future.

M&A deals of any kind make a lot of sense right now, given the amount of cash sitting idle on corporate balance sheets and the availability of cheap financing. But the type of deals being done now represent a change from the norm. By putting a premium on long-term demographics over short-term synergies, acquirers are behaving like glorified venture-capital firms, spreading their risk around by lots of different types of start-ups, letting them stay autonomous, and hoping that a few of them will get huge.

It’s a very different model than that of a few years ago, when tech and media companies were still trying to grow organically without needing to call in pinch-hitters. It points to how clueless most corporate executives are about the desires and habits of young people. And it ‘s a crystal-clear signal to any start-up hoping for an eventual sale: If you’ve succeeded at all in cracking the millennial code, your value goes way, way up.

Putting a premium on youth isn’t a bad thing. After all, young people are valuable. Many are still in their habit-forming stages, where a lifetime’s worth of consumer patterns is set. And tech M&A strategy has always been governed by a certain exotification of youth — witness the many old-line companies that tried to buy Facebook when it was still just a social network for college kids.

But this youth-above-all strategy could also backfire. After all, young people change their tastes more frequently than adults, and they aren’t a monolith. (What appeals to 16-year-olds often doesn’t do it for 18-year-olds, and vice versa.) The 20- and 30-somethings of the tech industry haven’t shown themselves to be particularly adept at parsing the interests of teens — just witness how Yik Yak, an aggressively ugly anonymous sharing app that flew under Silicon Valley’s radar for months, has taken over high schools and colleges. And, as Farhad Manjoo has written, kids themselves aren’t particularly good bellwethers of mass adoption or tech profitability.

In the case of Vice, Time Warner executives need to believe that Shane Smith not only knows what millennials will want from a news network, but how they’ll want to get their news in the future — it’s a bet on form as well as content. And they’ll need to give Vice near-complete autonomy no matter how big Time Warner’s stake gets; after all, what’s the point of acquiring an edgy young audience only to force your old-school sensibilities on them?

It’s a big gamble, this desperate desire to acquire and monetize what Kids These Days are doing. But it’s not tough to imagine Silicon Valley’s age anxiety spreading to other sectors. After all, as more young start-ups get acquired, fewer will grow into huge independent businesses, and the average corporate age will rise, which could compound the problem of too little in-house innovation. For the foreseeable future, buying a hip, young start-up will probably remain corporate America’s favorite way to stave off time’s cruel march, or at least have fun trying.

 

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How to Start a Business With a Friend — and Actually Remain Friends

6/11/2014 | Marshable

This article is part of DBA, a new series on Mashable that features insights from leaders in entrepreneurship, venture capital and management.

When you launch a company with a friend — if you’re a woman, at least — people tend to think one of two things: That it’s either an endless slumber-party (“That sounds like so much fun!”) or that you are completely insane and are destined to have a falling out that would be worthy of a Bravo reality show.

But four years into starting Of a Kind, a site that sells the pieces and tells the stories of emerging designers, my business partner Claire Mazur and I have had neither experience. In fact, we think that our partnership is one of the strongest, most impressive things about the business we’ve built. Below, eight of the tips and tricks we’ve picked up along the way.

1. Harness your shared history

Having been friends for the better part of a decade before starting a company, Claire and I had experienced a lot together, from the inevitable drama that comes with being a college girl (See: crying into pillows over breakups) to the more grown-up weight of family illness. We know how the other deals with stress and emotion. And while this comes in handy in countless settings, from presentations to hiring sessions, I have to say that I find it most comforting when we’re sitting in what feels like the worst meeting of all time, and I know the person sitting next to me is equally miserable.

2. Define roles

Though we share a couple’s desk and bounce ideas off each other all day, we have clearly outlined our responsibilities so that a) we don’t both write responses to the same emails and b) we don’t step on one another’s toes. Our who-does-what breakdown lives in a spreadsheet that we revisit regularly as our company and our priorities evolve.

3. Accept that people will confuse you

They will! And there’s nothing you can do about it. In fact, we have not one but two portmanteaus of the Brangelina/Kimye ilk: Clairica and Eclaire. But when people ask us if we live together? That’s when we laugh in their faces.

4. Schedule time apart (and don’t feel badly about it)

The amount of hours we clock together is almost obscene — in addition to our time at the office, there are drinks, meetings, dinners, after-work events. Our rule: We don’t see each other on weekends (unless a mutual friend’s wedding or birthday dinner thwarts that).

5. Take time to be just friends

Be gossipy. Talk about Scandal — or the World Cup brackets, if that’s your scene. Do the things you did before you had an inkling that one day you’d have a professional relationship.

6. Let other people in — but also make time for just the two of you

For us, this has been one of the biggest challenges of growing our company: We want each new hire to feel like he or she is part of Team Of a Kind, not some supporting character in the Claire-and-Erica show. But, now that we spend a greater portion of our days managing and delegating than we did back when, we inherently have less one-on-one time to check in on each other, brainstorm, and workshop bigger projects. This year, for the first time, we’ve started scheduling weekly closed-door meetings that pull us out of the office’s open floor plan (and, just as imperatively, out of our inboxes) to think big-picture together and walk through our week’s to-dos.

7. Learn how to fight and what’s worth fighting over

The more confident we’ve become in our business and in the roles we’ve carved out (see #2), the better we both have gotten about letting the little things go. This means we only devote energy and emotion to hashing out things that we deem to actually matter — and, in doing so, we give them the weight they deserve.

8. Own your individual brands of crazy

I am completely brain-dead from, oh, 3 to 5 p.m. every day, I love reading things aloud for no real reason, and I get outraged about really inconsequential stuff, like two-page-long resumes. Claire has to be fed every two hours, is allergic to mornings and sometimes starts conversations 30% in with no context. These are the type of things are not going to change. So they have to be what we can joke about — and cater to. Claire will listen to me read three paragraphs of an article before telling me to shut up, and I don’t schedule anything that requires enthusiasm before 11 a.m. And we wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

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The Indecipherable Modern Dude: Your Love and Sex Questions, Answered

6/11/2014 | Science of Us

Like many other mid-20s women living in Brooklyn, I’ve made my way around the world of online dating. In the 4 years that I’ve been quick matching, rating, swiping left or right, and chatting up countless men online, I’ve been on two good dates with guys I was interested in (one found another girl, one found another job on the other side of the country).

But even with guys I’d never consider for more than casual dating, there’s a frustrating dynamic I always seem to find myself in: We talk online, he’s charming and interesting; we talk via text, he’s funny and smart; we meet in person, he’s respectful and fun. We go through all that, and then BAM, he just wants to have no-strings-attached sex. No more dates, no potential for a relationship, he just wants to bone. Am I doing something in the course of our interaction that makes him change his mind about me? At what point does the giant neon “Just hit that!” sign go on over my head? 

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good, clean, casual romp in the sack, but what’s a girl gotta do to stay on the relationship path?

-Bummed in Brooklyn

Dear Bummed in Brooklyn,

What you describe is not an uncommon heterosexual dating dilemma. Men and women have different mating strategies depending on whether they are looking for a long- or short-term mate, and that could explain some of what you’re experiencing. In other words, if you are looking for a fun, casual summer fling, you will be attracted to different types of partner characteristics (e.g., sexy and hilarious) than if you were looking for a longer-term loving relationship (e.g., caring).

Rejection can also impact mate preferences. For example, a laboratory experiment was conducted to see whether social rejection would make women desire short-term mates over longer-term mates. The researchers had women take a personality survey, and some women were told their scores indicated they would lose many of their friendships and end up alone in life. These rejected women indicated greater interest in short-term mates than women who were not rejected. Rejected women also preferred mates with physical characteristics that reflected good genes (e.g., muscular body type) rather than characteristics that indicated better long-term potential. In other words, feeling rejected by dating partners and feeling frustrated about not finding someone may, on some level, be influencing what you are looking for in a mate, and lead to preferences for men who lack long-term dating potential.

Mate availability also plays a significant role in your situation. New York City is a context where single women greatly outnumber men; when this happens we see much shorter-term mating strategies among men, which means they are not as likely to settle down because there are many attractive options to choose from. Why settle down when there are other beautiful, successful women to pursue? When men in cities like New York City do commit, they tend to do so when they are over the age of 35, and women often report being much less satisfied in their relationships because they have lowered expectations for finding a “good” match in such locations.

So what is a Brooklyn girl to do? I recommend employing something I have termed “The Rule of Three:” Date three people at the same time. More than three can be too much to handle (who has the time?), but fewer than three makes it too tempting to put all your eggs into one basket too soon. Be honest to these men about dating multiple people; this makes your perceived “value” on the dating market higher, and therefore you become more valuable than other women who are comparatively more available, which could help guys take you seriously as more than just a potential casual sex partner. If, over time, you decide to get more serious with someone, you can start to drop numbers 2 and 3. Wait to start dropping the other guys until you are certain that “the one” has the long-term characteristics you are looking for because this takes time to discover.

I’ve been good friends with this guy (let’s call him Brandon) for eight years. Throughout our friendship, we’ve been flirty with each other and recently, especially since we both ended long-term relationships about a year ago, we’ve become even more so. He’s outright told me that he has wants to have sex with me and I want to, too. But I also like Brandon a lot and would love to be in a relationship with him. I don’t know if he feels the same way. What I don’t understand is how he can say he wants to have sex with me, flirt with me, and tell me I look “cute” and that I’m “gorgeous” without liking me or wanting to be in a relationship with me. We’ve been good, flirty, genuine friends for eight years and he only wants to have sex with me and not a relationship?

-Frustrated Friend

Dear Frustrated Friend,

Your eight-year friendship with Brandon has taken a flirtatious turn and you seem confused about what this means. Does he want to simply be friends with benefits? When selecting opposite-sex friendships, men tend to prioritize physical attractiveness in their female friends over other traits and sexual attraction between friends is very common, with 30-68% of people reporting some sort of physical attraction or sexual tension between friends at some point. You are both currently single and mutually attracted to each other, so your desire to have sex with each other is therefore not too surprising.

There are sex differences in motivations for having FWB relationships, with men generally being more motivated by sex, and women more by emotional connectedness. In addition, men are more likely to want the FWB status to remain the same over time; they are satisfied with indefinitely remaining friends who have sex, or until they find someone else to have a committed relationship with. In contrast, women are more likely to wish the FWB relationship would become “serious” over time — they add sex to the friendship with the hopes it will turn into a committed relationship. Many women report dissatisfaction and unhappiness when this change does not happen. The ambiguity of a FWB relationship may be difficult for some people to handle because there are few “ground rules” about what each partner expects from the relationship, and little discussion about what their hopes and expectations are. Women who experience a lot of anxiety in their intimate relationships also have a harder time adjusting to a FWB relationship than men because they perceive their FWB partners as being deceptive or misleading in their intentions.

My advice, which is similar to that provided by other researchers I know: Talk to him. You describe Brandon as a good friend, so a discussion about your desires and expectations from each other should not pose a threat to your friendship. If you want to have a more serious romantic relationship and he doesn’t, then A FWB arrangement may be difficult for you.

Why is it that guys seem to ignore everything a woman might be doing to say no or that they aren’t interested? I’m the least flirtatious person on the planet, but it seems like if I’m anything short of head-bitingly rude to certain dudes, they assume I want to hop in the sack. Is there anything women can do to prevent these sorts of misunderstandings? Likewise, what is it with guys supposedly reading personal ads and then completely ignoring anything a woman says in them? I’ve heard it’s supposedly that guys are biased to just ignore anything they don’t want to see in dating — is that true? 

– Don’t Wanna Be Rude

Dear Don’t Wanna Be Rude,

Most people assume that flirtatious behaviors are intended to initiate a sexual relationship, but there are other reasons people flirt, such as to start a platonic cross-sex friendship, to have fun, or to just feel emotionally closer to the other person. Men consistently misinterpret women’s flirtatious behaviors; they believe a woman’s flirtatious communication means she wants to have sex with him rather than her just being polite or friendly towards him. These misperceptions are even greater when the woman is attractive. So, the more attractive you are, the more men will perceive any form of communication from you as meaning “take me, now.”

Short of telling these men flat out you are not sexually interested in them, there is not too much more you can do. Flirting for fun or to develop a friendship is fine, but just be mindful of how such communication can be easily misperceived by these individuals. As for men who ignore details about you in responses to personal ads: ignore them. They are likely writing the same exact email to all the other women they message in the hope that even one will respond. Someone who truly is interested in you will take the time to learn about you before initiating a personalized form of contact.

Dr. Jennifer Jill Harman is an associate professor of psychology at Colorado State University who specializes in the study of sex and relationships. She’s a regular contributor to Science of Relationships and a co-author of The Science of Relationships: Answers to Your Questions About Dating, Marriage & Family.

 

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